I just feel really disappointed too. I don’t think I can file for bankruptcy. I do have some assets from when I was working (401K, Childrens college funds, opened when they were born) so I’m not sure how that would help.
He says he doesn’t tell me things because it makes me upset and depressed and I stop talking to him for awhile.
I have this terrible sense of fear and terror (which my husband feels is unjustified…..he says “it is only money”) and I wonder whether we can really afford our groceries and I’m watering the milk down already and I worry that I won’t be able to afford the vitamin supplements for our autistic son.
Then he says maybe he should stay at home and I should go to work (I was in work, for 10+ years before we married) and see how hard it is.
I’ve kept this from my parents for a long while, but I really need to speak to them, I think. Not for advice, and certainly not for financial help, but so that they know what I am going through here.
I just hate to see the nest egg I saved over ten years swallowed up by his lack of foresight and planning.
I’ve been thinking, maybe, I might feel better about loaning him the money with the stipulation and a formal agreement that he would pay it back to me at the rate of $100.00 per week (for three years). Could this work, do you think??